Levels of Life

[Jude]

My Twin Flame was taken from me with Brain Tumours, his 63rd b/d was spent dying in hospital in Dec 2010. We had been together for 41yrs, struggled through so much together, and looked forward to a Retirement TOGETHER' We had so many Plans, Hopes and Dreams, ALL of which died with my husband. Nothing I have read/heard had come even close to describing 'how it is', and I felt a complete Alien in a world where no one 'understood'.
I had never heard of JB but 'channel hopping' caught the end of the TV interview, and as a result bought 'Levels of Life'. I have now bought a further 7 copies which I have given to friends, HOPING for a level of 'understanding' of the world I now live in, something I cannot begin to put into words but JB CAN and DOES. A world I had absolutely NO IDEA of until I found myself living in it.
I now see the inadequacies in my life in dealing with the widowed, before I became 'one of them', and I HOPE that JB's book will give others an insight into 'our world' and they will not fail others as I have in the past, and they will 'understand' a little better how I feel.
He tells it like it is and I give thanks I found this man and his book.

[stellak]

Letter to JB:

I finished 'Levels of Life' in a day, the other day, the most inappropriate of days to be frank, as I was spending it at the beach with my husband on a rare occasion of us being alone together. I should have anticipated that Levels of Life would be a book that would stir my otherwise frozen emotions into a frenzy, but I underestimated my own vulnerability and your fortitude to depict the loss of a cherished one. I have read 'The Sense of an Ending' and although I appreciated your intellectual ability in creating a character I very much grew to disassociate with, I could not go beyond the fact that it was a promising title that did little to live up to its own expectations. Yet, I had not the audacity to believe this was your fault. So I read the book twice, followed the character in his journey of self-discovery, only to feel sorry for the character in the end. I was happy I'd educated myself with that book, in the end. With 'Levels of Life', I was able to appreciate your genius on the first reading. The reason is pretty simple, how does one achieve the impossible? Well, by putting two things together that had not been put together before. I will not rave your genius Mr. Barnes, I'm positive there are legions out there doing this. But allow me to say this: Those dreams of Pat, weren't self-generated. How could they be? Once our loved ones live inside us, allow them the space to manifest themselves as and when they please. For if they lacked the power to do this, there wouldn't be any magic, any two things put together in the first place.

[terefere]

Interesting link:
cultura.elpais.com/cultura/2015/04/20/actualidad/1429553082_783095.html